Three weeks ago, a family close pal sponsored for the housewarming of my small pad. I was deeply touched for the effort they’ve put through. They painstakingly did all the marketing and cooking. I did nothing but wait for the food to arrive here in my simple abode.
The 6-door apartment. I occupy Door #6
It wasn’t thoroughly planned but it’s a good way to gather all my family and friends in my simple haven.
Gensan's Best- Grilled Tuna Jaw
Grilled Meat
The famous "kinilaw"
We feasted on these delish and sumptuous dishes that were laid down on the table. While my brothers, SIL and some friends were beginning to eat, I was wondering if my Mom will ever come. I was actually looking forward for that day and I felt excited because it will be my Mom’s first time to set foot in my pad. I was disheartened though when I was informed that she won’t be able to make it.
Everything is small in my pad, LOL!
My family and friends actually tried to trick my Mom into coming. They earlier informed her that the dinner was in honor of a family friend who’s leaving for Dubai. My Mom then sent me SMS about it and asked me what to bring for dinner. I kept mummed and never divulged to her that it’s going to be a simple dinner in my new home. But when she later on learned that it’s gonna be at the pad, she told everyone she’s not coming. They were all teasing her and asked for her reasons for not coming. She would just say, “Nothing.”
I was later on informed via a phone call that she had a heart-to-heart talk with one of our family friend who’s also a Mom. My Mom expressed in between tears that she can never accept the fact that I left the house. It was too painful for her and she promised to never set foot in my pad ever. When I learned about that, I didn’t finish what I was eating and I immediately fled to our friend’s house.
There I saw my Mom. Her puffy eyes was very noticeable. I invited her over at the pad but she reasoned out she’s done eating her share of the dinner. Right! She was pretending she’s downright OK. No matter how much I try to convince her to come with me at the pad, it was to no avail. I then gave up.
Yours truly at a friend's house trying my convincing powers with my Mom, LOL!
They all advised me to give her time. I should try to understand her because it’s normal for Moms to feel that way. They feel that when their children try to seek independence, they have forever lost them.
While on the outside I can pass as an independent woman who have learned to spread its wings on her own, on the inside I feel shattered that the sought independence was somehow overshadowed by the misconception that my Mom lost me.
I still am the same baby girl she carried in her womb, raised and reared eons ago. But this girl feels the need to widen her horizon. There’s that certain longing to learn to stand on my own two feet.
I believe my Mom will one day come to terms with the fact that I am a big girl now and that I can handle myself very well.
BREAKING NEWS: My Mom Finally Visited Me!
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awwww! just give her time katukayo..maiintindhan din ni mother ung sitwasyon…kw pla baby girl nia eh…ayiiiih…^_^ sweet tlga…kaya d nia pa matanggap na naksarili kna ngaun…hope nxt post mo about sa fam na magvivisit sa pad mo present na si mother…weeee!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 8th, 2011 at 12:05 am
@stormblogger,
Yes, my pretty Katukayo. In time,my Madear will understand. Ang sabihin mo, Baby damulag nya ako, hehehe!
Sana nga she will come to visit me here at the pad one of these days along with the boys
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I fully understand how your Mom feels Lainy, ako nga kahit sa school pa lang, I felt sick when I first sent my daughter there lol. Natural lang siguro yan sa mga mommies. I am sure you would feel the same pag naging mommy ka na din heheeh. Ganda ng pad mo ah!
Thanks for joining still, greatly appreciate it!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 8th, 2011 at 12:29 am
@chubskulit,
Yeah, I am sure I’d understand deeper how it feels when I become a Mom myself.
It’s a pleasure joining Nostalgia, Rose.
See yah!
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huhuhu madear is still upset, Sis. coz I’m not a mommy myself, I think I understand you more hahaha. kasi ganyan din ang ginawa ko. just like my Mom,one thing’s for sure – - mama dear will come around and have a change of heart. once that happens baka siya pa ang mangunguna in filling up the pad with thinggggggs. just give her more time.
that grilled tuna and kinilaw is making me drool big time. ang tagal ko ng di nakakain niyan. pwede pahingi? (lol)
take care sis.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 8th, 2011 at 7:19 am
@juliana,
She is, Sis.
Buti nalang at may kakampi ako, hahahaha!
You’re right, Sis. I know she will come around in time.
Oh! Sorry for making you drool like that Sis, hahahaha! Wala ng natira, pasensya ka na. Sobrang delayed ng pagsusulat ko tungkol dito, hehe!
You take care too, Sis. HUGS!
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I understand how you feel about it, I also had questions in the past about Mom’s over protective nature but now that I have kids of my own I understand my Mom more than ever. Give your Mom some more time and she’ll accept it. Don’t give up convincing her but don’t push her too much. You’ll understand her feelings more pag Mom ka na :D. Pray and He’ll help you. God Bless and take care!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 12:08 pm
@Race,
Thank you, Sis.
I am sure I’d understand more when I have my own children one day.
Everything is well noted, Sis. Thanks for the pieces of advice. I truly appreciate that.
God bless you too.
Hugs!
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i understand your mom feelings, now, i need to accept whatever the decision of my daughter soon she will decide to be independent..huhuhu…makahilak man oi..kay syempre lahi baya ang feelings sa ina madam..huhuhu..nakaluha nalang ko..
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 12:10 pm
@star,
I know, I know Mommy Star, hehe! I am sure you’ve cried river of tears again just thinking about you and Lollii.
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pero sarap ang foods ha…heheheheh…love it!!!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 12:10 pm
@star,
Thanks to my generous sponsor, hahahaha!
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Waaaah! This makes me teary-eyed! I regretted having looked forward to this post kay perting pagkasakita man diay basahon! LOL. Naluoy ko sa imong Mama Sis kay di jud niya madawat imong pagka-big girl na. Lol. She is so emotional. I am a Mom myself now, and although I still can’t sleep a night without my daughter, gosh, I am sure it will be different if this daughter is 30 years old. Hahaha. Although I would be like your Mom, too, who, as much as I could, would shelter the girl I have birth to, as long as she won’t make me a slave. Hahaha. Maksabot ra na imong Madear Sis, in time. Just don’t forget to stop being her daughter– loving and caring for her despite the physical distance.
Ang panga sa bariles, pwede akoa na na tanan? Pastilan kahilakon pud ko tungod ana sa kaibog ba. Sakit kaayo sa heart. LOL. Unya ha, nice kaayo imong pad. Pang “now a lady” jud kaayo.
Visiting for WW diay. If you have time, you are welcome at my shares:
The White House Replica at the Lincoln Presidential Museum
The NO Fun PanDigital Tablet
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Thank you!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 12:15 pm
@Rcel,
I am sorry, Sis. That wasn’t the intention, hehe. Ipapahid nalang kay banana ang luha nga mutuluay pa, hahahaha!
Usahay bitaw, I regret having made the decision of moving out but when I assess things deeper, I know my action will reap better results in the end.
Thanks for sharing about you and your little Darling Triz. At least when I become a mother myself, I’d be armed with some understanding on how to deal with this kind of situation. But then, when you’re in the actual situation, it will be a whole lot different.
Ang panga? Sus Sis, wa nay nahibilin bisan bukog naman lamang, hahaha!
I will take time to visit all your whites later tonight, Sis.
See yah!
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Sobrang love ka ng mommy mo! I’m sure in due time maiintindihan nya din.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 12:17 pm
@anney,
Yes she does. I hope in time she will come around. I shall be looking forward for that.
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I totally understand how she feels, ikaw bay maging mommy leyn, dayon close kaau mo, Kung pwede Lang jud na angkunon ka forever buhaton jud sa mommy. Mao lagi na ipa medicine or medical course namo ning mga bataa aron sure na sa balay ra cla hantod 30.. Hehe! Ka nice sa bldg sa apt oi.. Lami kaau ang foods makalaway! PS.. Perme ko sa blog mo oi Kay nag subscribe man ko sa imo dayon always ko atubang sa celphone na unli ang Internet. Naa time dili ma publish ang comments ko Kay perme makalimtan ang capcha. Nabasa ko na ang reply mo sa comment ko.. Sa email always madawat nako.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 12:31 pm
@Twerlyn,
Bitaw Lermz.
Brilliant idea! Wala ko kahuna-huna ana pa. One way diay na for the kids to remain tied with their parents till that age, hahaha!
Sa Villa Consuelo ni sya Lermz. Medyo layo sa amoa, hehe!
Thanks kaayo for subscribing, Lermz. Amiga jud ta, hehe! Kasayang sa mga comments nga wala nakalusot. Pero at least updated jud diay gihapon ka kay dawat man tanan sa cp, hehe!
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hehe, funny si Tita. I know in time matatanggap nya din yan.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 9th, 2011 at 12:31 pm
@ally,
Sana nga, Bang!
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er, that’s actually the reason of my nostalgia post. that kids will eventually grow up and leave us to make their own lives…me and the hubs were “on the edge” of learning it out:)
tama sila,give ur mom some time…walang nanay ang nakakatiis sa kanyang anak.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 11th, 2011 at 1:41 pm
@imriz,
Geez! I am so late visiting out your Nostalgia post, Sis. Gotta do that now before I ran out of time again
I am happy to say that I think she has finally come around. Tama ka. Di kayang tiisin ng ina ang anak
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Hi Lainy! Sometimes we come to a point in our life when we want to be totally independent not for anything else but just to try things on our own. But u must also take note that it’s a painful process for ur Mom. As a Mom myself, the very thought of my kids leaving me one day really scares me. In that case, u have to constantly assure her that she never loses u.
Have a great day!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 11th, 2011 at 1:58 pm
@KRIZZA,
Hello Krizza.
You said it! The Mom was undergoing a hard time accepting a hard truth.
You have a great day too!
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me want that tuna jaw and kinilaw…now i miss mindanao (DGY)
here is my entry
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 11th, 2011 at 2:01 pm
@Jay-agent112778,
You must be drooling over there, LOL!
Gotta run now to read through your entry.
See yah!
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yummy grilled panga
drooling.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 11th, 2011 at 2:07 pm
@Perfectly Blended,
Haha! I am sure
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Your mom should be proud of what you become and support you instead of feeling that way.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 11th, 2011 at 2:11 pm
@FoodTripFriday,
Like most Moms have said above, it’s but normal for them to feel that way so even if I am not a Mom just yet, I do understand the painful process that she’s going through. I am just biding my time. She will come around in no time.
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I do believe that time will come. I envy you because you have a mom that cares too much for you. I have been independent on my own since high school when I lost my grand mother who took care of me since my early childhood.
Be strong and always remember that when things get rough you still have your family to depend on no matter what.
Thanks for joining and sharing! Till next monday.
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 11th, 2011 at 2:20 pm
@mygreenlivingideas,
It indeed came, Sis
The long wait is over. My Mom finally came to visit me yesterday 
I am sorry to hear the loss of your grandmom.
Thanks Sis. Your comment is such a moral booster.
Hugs!
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yum…looks very delicious, missed the kinilaw, it has been awhile, cannot wait to eat it
visiting from YS, hope you can visit me back
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 13th, 2011 at 9:01 pm
@Jessica,
It is, Jess.
I believe I already have visited your YS entry.
See you around!
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those foods looks so yummy…maybe in due time and God’s perfect time, she will understand what you’ve decided to do. and someday she will think, she raised a very fine girl…and she’s blessed to have you!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 13th, 2011 at 9:03 pm
@cheerful,
Sobrang yum, Sis. Too bad I wasn’t able to eat well that night coz of my Mom
Thank you for the nice words. Nakakataba naman ng puso
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Oh wow, I love kinilaw and tuna jaw!
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Lainybelle Reply:
September 13th, 2011 at 9:06 pm
@Pearl @ Sassy Chef Recipes,
Same here!
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what a touching story, I suddenly missed my mom! BTW, love the Tuna and GENSAN, hoping we dould visit next year’s Tuna Festival…
Hope you visit me also at .. http://www.gastronomybyjoy.com/
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Nice photos
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Looks like a fun day. Family gatherings are always love. Oh, and don’t forget the join of eating with bare hand! Parang mas masarap kapag nagkakamay.
Visiting via Yummy sunday.
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Wow sarap nang food dito. Namissed ko na lahat ito. ^_^
Chicken Mango
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back here from OT naman, have a great week and hope things are getting better!
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my 3rd visit, this time from WW naman, hehehe, kulit ko, pabalik-balik! have a great day!
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i’m here again for Thursday Brownies naman, hayy, feeling ko nakukulitan ka na sa akin, hehehe! since i’m here na din lang, leaving comments na din, hehehe! happy Monday!
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aww. you will get her to visit you in time, sis! meantime just let her see and feel that you have not changed. Thanks for sharing this at WW!
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Moms will always be moms. She has to realize that her baby will not always be with her at home. =)
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