Putting a Face Into a Name: Joy

In the blogging world, blogpals strongly support each other without having to see each other face-to-face. We clearly know one another by our pen names and how our mind strongly speaks but strangely enough, putting a face into a name is a rare occurrence. But once an opportunity strikes, I’d grab it. It’s just me.

When I was informed in April that a blogpal of mine was coming down to Sydney from Brisbane, I felt ecstatic. We have known each other since I started out blogging more than 9 years ago. That’s how much I feel so ancient in knowing her via our blogs but we never got the chance to get acquainted face-to-face.

How It All Began
When I was only a neophyte at bloglandia in 2007, Joy was amongst the first few who supported me by virtue of appreciating my thoughts, agreeing to what I write, celebrating milestones, openly or silently refuting some ideas, and simply showing support by making her presence felt to whatever crap I publish across my blogs. Eventually, a beautiful and rare kind of friendship has evolved virtually; and it all took place even before the social media like Facebook invaded our lives.

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This is how Joy sees me as a blogger. Yay! Thanks for the beautiful words! ☺️

The Meet and Greet
When I learned of their hectic schedule, I informed my husband and he was ever willing and happy to drive me together with our son to our meeting place which was just in the vicinity of a shopping centre. The only thing was that, they will be arriving at night time, which was my baby’s sleeping time.

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With both our families. My poor little fella! He was asleep the whole time! 😩

It was just a quick and short meet-up. I was happy to see a very cheerful, pretty, and sexy Mummy with her beautiful family. Joy was the same person as I have pictured her to be at the blogs.

I’d like to thank her and her family for going out of their way to meet me and my small family despite feeling exhausted from their long travel from Brisbane en route to Melbourne.

Hugs to you Joy and your beautiful family! It was a pleasure meeting you face-to-face! It’s a good feeling to have finally put a face into your name.

Until we meet again!

Why Does One Blog?

To begin with, that’s a stupid question  –  “why does one Blog?” but necessary just for the sake of this article,  if I may add.

Apart from monetary reasons,  since e-Commerce and other Services have found their presence at Blogs and forced Blogs to migrate from its traditional path, the Blog despite it all has grown by geometric progression.

A Personal Endeavor

It provides the latitude for an individual to devote time to deliver something he thinks is important enough. In doing so with a Blog it also enables him to commingle with the blogging fraternity.

For some a Blog is the best way to “get it out of their system” so to speak,  as it affords a catharsis in some way.  You know, like after having a spat with your spouse or sweetheart or friend.  The Blog is the inevitable Paracetemol.  You could compare the Blog to a facial puss-filled acne just waiting to be relieved.

Then there are the cry-babies,  seeking attention through the use of their Blog. Perhaps for these they either feel  neglected or unable to have even  a 5 minute conversation with their spouse without their house roof caving in.

These and numerous other personal reasons motivate an individual to join the status quo by adding a URL or more to their list of personal possessions.

Is blogging invasive?

It is definitely invasive. The only activity one can assume that isn’t would be if one decides to be a hermit.

For as long as the Blog is active, the Blogger is subjected to a rewording of Thomas A. Kempis’ phrase:

[pullquote]”For Blogger proposes, but man disposes; neither is the way of the Blogger in his own hands”.[/pullquote]

Every Blogger will have to accept the reality that he is surrounded from the sweet-toothed to those that are fanged.

Blog Diversions

Tales of virtual romance and those that led some to the Vows of Marriage are known.

The broadening of both knowledge and acquaintances is another.

I shall leave out the regrettable side of what transpires simply because that is not what a Blog is ever meant to be.

Of late, Social Networks have seized on the immense number of Blogs and these social networks have evolved with a remarkable makeover. Remote cellular links has also given a few Social Networks a fillip while they aspire to share the same pedestal as Blogs.

The Cycle of Reinvention

Has the Blog gone a full circle and like it’s predecessors is on its way out? Like the emails, the Chat Rooms and Forums, is the Blog being diminished by other avant-garde electronic gadgets?

I believe Blogs will approach that eventually. Arguably personal free-time will be shrunk even further and the time spent at the Computers will be forcefully minimized. Why right now even as I write this article, my cellular phone is being spammed by advertisers and news that I never registered for.

Wireless Internet connections are available at  specific Coffee houses as a growing in-house feature. There is even a Bus Transport Company that provides wireless Internet link for the few on-the-go passengers whose bread and butter depends on a Notebook or a Laptop. These are now the visible symptoms of a breach from the traditional Internet Cafe services and Desktop at home situations.

Even the present popularity of Social Networks might take a backseat unless they transform their reach in ways greater than what they are now.

Going Futuristic – Blog with your hand held cellular phone

As one would do it with a Desktop PC or laptop,  the geniuses of blogging platforms such as Google’s blogspot and WordPress may extend their longevity. That is if they are not already at their drawing boards brainstorming how one can Blog with the use of a cellular phone in ways never thought possible before.

Egotism, Your Name Is Legion Too

To continue with the series of Blogger aversion, this is what I consider the next most averse Blogger. It is Number 2 right after the Hypocrite Blogger.

[pullquote]Big egos are big shields for lots of empty space. – Diana Black[/pullquote]

Elsewhere at I’d Say, “Bloggers, Move On”,  Windy once described the Egotist Blogger as the “I, Me, My Blogger”. I don’t know why Windy used three words when only one could have said it all. Ha ha ha. I think he wrote it for literary emphasis.

[pullquote]Egotist. A person of low taste, more interested in himself than me. – Ambrose Bierce[/pullquote]

In many ways it is true since the Egotist Blogger, no matter how much he talks about at his Article or where ever he submits a Commentary, he would not feel at ease without referring to I, Me or My as often as he possibly can

What are the characteristics of the Egotist Blogger

1. Bloggers who will discredit anything that another Blogger imparts without fact and proof.
2. Bloggers who arrive at other Blogs and try to get all the attention by being ostensibly loud.
3. Bloggers who have little substance in what they say but try to impress others with the use of clichés and bombastic jargon.
4. Bloggers who by their behavior become  the “Emperor” in Hans Christian Anderson’s tale about the Emperor’s New Clothes.
5. Bloggers who unable to maintain discussion at a rational level, indulge in name calling and making wild aspersions.
6. Bloggers who like sick second heroes, after failing to defend themselves in a public argument, they will declare, “I am going to stop blogging”; then surprise everyone by sheepishly returning to blog.
7. Bloggers who suffer an inferiority complex and campaign for answers, “Do you think I should quit blogging?” (like as though it really matters in Blogosphere if they are missed)

[pullquote]What will the world be quite overturned when you die? – Epictetus[/pullquote]

8. Bloggers who send personal emails when they feel they have failed to make an impression.
9. Bloggers who have so much time to dispense to others Norman Vincent Peale’s type of self improvement when it is obvious they are the ones who need it most.
10. Bloggers who believe that their life would fall into an abyss if they ever apologized.
11. Bloggers who revel in reading what is not in print and complain vehemently that they have been blog-buggered by insinuations.
12. Bloggers who put themselves and their Blog at the right hand-side of Blog-god.

What do we know about the Egotist Blogger?

The Egotist Blogger is so full of himself, it is amazing how he defies the proverbial “pride goes before a fall”.

Hmmm, did it say, “fall”? What fall? The Egotist Blogger has a skin thicker than that of a Hippopotamus!

Chameleon-like, the Egotist Blogger picks himself up after every dastardly act, blithely dusts off his dirt and undismayed continues with his reptilian hiss, “trussssst Meeee”.  So –  off he slithers to coil around another Blogger and his Blog.

Edward de Bono, physician, author, inventor, consultant and known as the originator of the term lateral thinking had this to say:

Thinking is often regarded as an extension of the ego. Clever children in school base their egos on being clever and on being right all the time. They dislike group work because they cannot then show the rest of the class where the good idea originated. When the ego and thinking are treated as the same thing there is a reluctance to be wrong and a need to defend a point of view rather than to explore the situation. A person should be able to treat his thinking much as a tennis player treats his strokes: he should be able to walk off the court complaining that his backhand was not working very well on that occasion or that it required more practice.
This new meta-system is very much in favor of the self, but a self that is based on a proper sense of dignity, not on an inflated ego. A person who dare not admit he is wrong inflates his ego but weakens his self.
(Edward de Bono – The Happiness Purpose)

The Egotist Blogger is a parasite and for his insatiable craving, Blogosphere is his personal gallery.

Hypocrisy, Your Name is Legion

align boxBlog Owner and Post Author: Lainy

Has it ever occurred to you how many occasions that you have been in discussion with Bloggers who eventually reveal who they truly are?

If blogging is anything else it also is considered a personal reflection of the Blogger from his published articles and/or comments. How many Bloggers have failed miserably in understanding the value of the blog media let alone their own personal value?

Granted that there are uncountable reasons why anyone would wish to blog. These reasons alone is not being evaluated. What is being evaluated is the Blogger and his ethics.

[pullquote]The smylere with the knyf under the cloke.
Geoffrey Chaucer: The Canterbury Tales ‘The Knight’s Tale’ [/pullquote]

No matter how one sees it, the Blogger whatever he writes, these two are inseparable.

To a large extent, the anonymity that the Internet affords, it adds more bravado to the Blogger. It is this veil that enables the Blogger to mask himself for reasons he knows. And that assumes whether in the first instance they really know their own self.

I write about the HYPOCRITE BLOGGER. This should instantly make it clear what this Article is all about.
Hypocrisy, the only evil that walks
Invisible, except to God alone.
John Milton: Paradise Lost [/pullquote]

Just for the sake of making a statement, I shall quote directly from the Oxford English Dictionary.

• noun (pl. hypocrisies) the practice of claiming to have higher standards or beliefs than is the case.

What are the characteristics of the HYPOCRITE BLOGGER?

From my experience, these are a few of Hypocrite Blogger characteristics:

  1. Bloggers who pompously serve advice to others without understanding the root cause of the issue and themselves fail miserably in executing their just advice.
  2. Bloggers who offer sweet nothings and are never heard of ever again.
  3. Bloggers who run from pillar to post in whichever direction the wind blows stronger.
  4. Bloggers who condemn fellow Bloggers with a fiendish motive and without proof.
  5. Bloggers who ask for help but turn their heads away when it is their turn to help.
  6. Bloggers who deviously gather information about someone else and without the latter knowing that (s)he is being dissected like a laboratory specimen; later to be abused.
  7. Bloggers who never fail to produce that unmistakable aura around themselves that truth and knowledge is only beholden with them.
  8. Bloggers who behave as though they have never sinned in their life.
  9. Bloggers who merely wish to get close because of ulterior motives.
  10. Bloggers who do not have a mind of their own.
  11. Bloggers who form their own blogger-clan to malign others.
  12. Bloggers who use their Blog as leverage to inflict their scorn and do it without justification.

[pullquote]Keep up appearances; there lies the test;
The world will give thee credit for the rest.
Outward be fair, however foul within;
Sin if thou wilt, but then in secret sin.
Charles Churchill: Night [/pullquote]

“Nosce te ipsum”

In plain English, it means Know Thyself.

Was it not Socrates who said the most important thing in life is to know your self? He meant that Knowledge of Self is the starting point of personal and spiritual growth

In this passage that Einstein once said, it uncannily personifies the Hypocrite Blogger that I write about.

Somebody who only reads newspapers and at best books of contemporary authors looks to me like an extremely near-sighted person who scorns eyeglasses. He is completely dependent on the prejudices and fashions of his times, since he never gets to see or hear anything else. And what a person thinks on his own without being stimulated by the thoughts and experiences of other people is even in the best case rather paltry and monotonous. There are only a few enlightened people with a lucid mind and style and with good taste within a century. What has been preserved of their work belongs among the most precious possessions of mankind. We owe it to a few writers of antiquity (Plato, Aristotle, etc.) that the people in the Middle Ages could slowly extricate themselves from the superstitions and ignorance that had darkened life for more than half a millennium. Nothing is more needed to overcome the modernist’s snobbishness. (Albert Einstein, 1954)

Also, if I may also borrow a word that someone used in his appraisal for the submissions at my Blogoversary Writing Contest last year – MEDIOCRITY. That is yet another thing akin to hypocrisy.

[pullquote]Compound for sins, they are inclined to,
By damning those they have no mind to.
Samuel Butler: Hudibras [/pullquote]

Mediocre bloggers over-populate Blogosphere. Time and time again, without fail, these mediocre Bloggers have nothing better to offer than what either offends them or they pursue hell bent to blog-whip others or manipulate blogger friendliness for self gain and Blog gain.

Hypocrisy rules in Blogosphere.

Windy Has This For Recel

Windy handed me this to publish it for Recel who blogs at My Written xPressions. Says he read Recel’s latest Post, To Quit Blogging? and he put this together for her.

Recel, this is for you and it is from Windy.

Hmmm, although Windy himself has stopped blogging, it is apparent that he continues to “snoop” around in Blogosphere. Personally, I do know there are a few Bloggers whom Windy has a high regard – and Sis, you’re one of the few… 🙂

I'd Say, "Bloggers, Move On"

align boxBlog co-Author: Windy

Over the past two years, well not exactly two years because I stopped blogging sometime in September 2009 and returned here with a Comment on February 22nd., at Lainy’s Post.

One thing led to another and that applied to publishing articles here at Lainy’s invitation. I have returned only to find in a larger circumstance, the same old attitudes and blogging mindset.

What do I refer to?

These are observations made from published articles as well as from Comments submitted at various Blogs:

1. The myopic bloggers who can’t see anything further than within a 6 inch perimeter around themselves. Regrettably these bloggers fail to recognize that there are no boundaries that separate individuals in the blogging community.

2. The shameful tactless bloggers who manifest their bickering and obtuse references when all it takes is to call a spade, a spade. Brevity is the soul of wit.

3. The every way but win bloggers who find that it is beyond them to accept that Providence bestowed on them only one zillionth of intellectual capability.

4. The pestilence bloggers who can’t think of anything else better to do than spend their time spamming in every way conceivable.

5. The I, Me and My egotist bloggers who inscrutably find more happiness by engorging on pride much to their own ruin.

6. The diplomat bloggers who are neither here nor there in any given circumstance. They are in a state of self denial about the fact that popularity is fickle.

7. The hypocrite bloggers who thrive on back stabbing. We’ve actually lost good bloggers who stopped blogging because they were victims of this kind of bloggers.

8. The pharisaic bloggers who denounce what other bloggers do when the former has nothing better to offer by suggestion.

9. The all amiable YES bloggers who sweetly agree to whatever is placed before them.

10. The omniscience bloggers who pick on just about anything, even when there is a typo error or assail any effort to theorize.

The above list is not all that I have observed since I returned to blog as a Blog Co-Author at Lainy’s Musings.

There is a marked deterioration in the fare that bloggers commit themselves. There is a significant reduction in the number of what one would assay as a blogger who is worth his publications.

Fortunately, for the old fashioned SAHM (Stay At Home Mom) bloggers who once were the target of blog critics, their material still continues with predictable consistency when compared to Bloggers number 1 to 10 above. Blogverbially then, it’s so true that “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world”. More power to our SAHMs!

The blogging sparkle has been subdued considerably with the lack luster management of Social Networks (MyBlogLog, Entrecard, BlogCatalog and a few others that fizzled out).

What is the rave today at Blogosphere?


Yes, at this moment, I can’t point to any that ‘s worth mentioning.

Every blogger is too involved with himself and there is a dearth of creativity, imagination and passion; qualities that are prerequisites and only found in a very small fraction in the blogging community.

You dispute that?

Well, take a look at what is flaunted at Twitter for 10 minutes. You’d say that’s a poor sampling. Review it randomly.

Go to Facebook and make your own assay where members have become bored and idle, they’d rather play games there than interact. We’re talking about adults who are receding to infantalism.

Enough said..so what is inherent with quality blogging?

Whatever be the Blog’s theme, be it a gallery of photos, the culinary arts, travel, folklore, education, literature, child care, politics, social issues, medicines and remedies, personal “diary”, the arts and crafts, the entertainment industry, economics, money management, home care and design, hobbies, sports, health care, faith, music, story telling, comedy relief, fiction, electronics and gadgetry, photography, you name it, even PAID POST too…

The value-added factor to the essence of blogging and being a Blogger is to impart, to exchange, to share and elicit discussions and opinions with those who have a shared interest.


When to Begin?

It also could be, “Where Do I Begin” when Andy Williams belts out tenorously in the Movie theme song for Love Story.

You’ll soon know the answers when to begin.

Take the evergreen Begin the Beguine. You could even say it palindrome and it would sound the same. You won’t lose it. Ha ha ha.

That’s not what I wanted to write about.

Beguine? Is that a spelling error by the lyric composer? As I found out, it isn’t an error.

The Thesaurus defines beguine as:

Beguine – (Roman Catholic Church) a member of a lay sisterhood (one of several founded in the Netherlands in the 12th and 13th centuries); though not taking religious vows the sisters followed an austere life.
2.beguine – music written in the bolero rhythm of the beguine dance
dance music – music to dance to
3.beguine – a ballroom dance that originated in the French West Indies; similar to the rumba ballroom dance, ballroom dancing – any of a variety of social dances performed by couples in a ballroom

Elsewhere I also found this..

[French (West Indies) béguine, from French béguin, hood, flirtation, from beguine, Beguine; see Beguine.]

Interesting, I learn more everyday.

It can’t be possible that Begin the Beguine is sung by the Novices of that Order of Sisters during their investiture to Sisterhood. Most certainly not or they’d become starry eyed sisters, for sure.

So it is a choice between being flirtatious or craving to dance. Now that would make more sense.

Then again, this is not what I wanted to write about.

What is it then? you may hastily ask.

Hmmm, well, I think that bloggers spend too much time staring at their keyboards and monitors. It is an addictive blogging preoccupation.
Bloggers should learn when to begin as in Begin the Beguine. Yeah! pamper themselves, relax and allow the strains of romance begin. No kidding. Read the lyrics and you’ll have to agree with me.

When they begin
the beguine
it brings back the sound
of music so tender
it brings back a night
of tropical splendor
it brings back a memory of green

I’m with you once more
under the stars
and down by the shore
an orchestras playing
and even the palms
seem to be swaying
when they begin
the beguine

to live it again
is past all endeavor
except when that tune
clutches my heart
and there we are swearing to love forever
and promising never
never to part

a moments divine
what rapture serene
to clouds came along
to disperse the joys we had tasted
and now when I hear people curse the chance that was wasted
I know but too well what they mean

so dont let them begin the beguine
let the love that was once a fire
remain an amber
let it sleep like the dead desire I only remember
when they begin the beguine

oh yes let them begin the beguine
make them play
till the stars that were there before
return above you
till you whisper to me
once more darling I love you
and we suddenly know what heaven we’re in
when they begin
the beguine

If that is not convincing enough, go on playback Michael Bublé rendition of Begin the Beguine, go grab your spouse and BEGIN YOUR BEGUINE!

Here’s wishing that bloggers begin to enjoy beguine-ing.