GoFundMe Campaign Launched to Help a Friend

Over the weekend, I got the rare opportunity of keeping in touch with my grade school classmates via private chat. We may have been “friends” on Facebook for as long as I can remember; however, we don’t really get to talk on a rather personal basis. I believe that is one downside of social media- we can be so near yet so far. But in hindsight, it could also work to the advantage of someone like me who’s away from my family. They can be so distant yet so near.

Some of my classmates were adamant in holding a Get-Together or a Reunion of some sort. Suggestions were made, pledges were offered, initial plans were laid out.

It was a mixture of different personalities combined together that were developed and honed by various educational backgrounds, trainings, and experiences. I find it very refreshing!

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Jokes were shared, laughters erupted, and the unending banters ensued. It was a joyful moment to have reminisced the past with them virtually.

The intention may have been to poke fun when we were asked to send a selfie for the group to see but some of them rose to the challenge. It’s amazing how they haven’t aged at all!

However, my heart was broken into a million pieces when one of my classmates, Marivic Apelinga, shared a photo of herself. She is strapped in a wheelchair. I could hardly recognize her at all! I can’t help but weep in silence!

I was made aware that she was very ill two years ago. But I never really thought she was “that” ill until recently. I felt guilty for not being able to respond quickly and I have not accorded support in whatever means possible when our classmate Erickson initiated to help her. His gesture was incredibly appreciated by yours truly. But in all fairness to myself, I was pregnant then and had my own personal issues.

But so much for my lame excuses!

I felt the need to make it up to her. It was in this instance when Erickson and I together with our classmates came up with the idea of launching a campaign so we can raise sufficient funds for Marivic that will cover the treatment costs for two years.

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I never had a GoFundMe account; I never felt the need to have one. But I vowed to help Marivic in the little way I know how. I wrote the draft and aimed of accomplishing it over the weekend despite a tight schedule that was mostly spent with my family. GoFundMe is restricted in the Philippines; so I was left with little choice but to use the account I created (Read: We initially made efforts to launch the campaign from GoFundMe Philippines). After a much thorough deliberation with Marivic and Erickson, the page went live last night. As of this writing, it has been shared on Facebook 40 times and 5 donations have been made.

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I have never lost my faith in humanity as I have been a recipient of many random acts of kindness in the past by some random people I have met online and offline. I duly express my high hopes and optimism that this campaign will reap the same and eventually achieve its goal.

If it’s not too much to ask, kindly visit the GoFundMe page H E R E to read further about Marivic’s plight. Please help us spread the word so we may reach our goal to help Marivic cover the costs of her treatment.

Thanks in advance for your help, kindness, and generosity!

To Marry or To Merry

It is considered taboo especially in Filipino culture when a young girl involves herself with a married man. Most young Filipinas were disowned by their respective families because there is a lot of disgrace attached when a girl falls in love with a married man.

There were a lot of girls who fought for what they felt and bargained their principles. And yes, they have traded their families and friends as well. Emotionally, the girls are the ones that are adversely affected by the entire situation. Friends will begin to turn away and families will shun her. The guy’s family will absolutely hate her for ruining their lives.

Now, I have to ask, is it all worth it?

Let’s admit it. Getting one’s self entangled with a family man entails home wrecking and is considered to be adultery and even a sin. This will eventually give both parties the guilt feelings.

Admittedly, some girls always seek first for a father figure. Married men easily fits that. It’s a psychological thing for girls. Then when the “father” figure pokes around, the girl awakens to find out that she has a stellar product and the “father” figure role is diminished. And then romance sets in. The girl will then try to outdo the married man’s wife.

And she starts to sing:

“ANYTHING SHE CAN DO, I CAN DO BETTER!”

The excitement takes a hard knock when she realizes she should not be vomitting every morning after she wakes up. Then the blame-game begins. The hide and seek also begins.

She will start to cry and say:

HE DID IT TO ME. HE SAID HE WANTED TO CHECK IF MY LOVE IS TRUE. BUT HE DID MORE THAN CHECK. HE CHECKED IN!” :roll:

Let me give you a common scenario when the pregnant girl comes home.

In arrives Big Brother….. WHO IS THAT MAN? GIVE ME HIS NAME? WHERE DOES HE LIVE? TELL ME NOW.

Preggy girl: WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO HIM?

Big Brother: WE ARE GOING TO FRY HIS SAUSAGE TONIGHT FOR FAMILY DINNER!

Preggy girl: OH! HINDIIIII! HINDIIIIII! I STILL LOVE HIM. I WANT HIM TO CHECK IN HIS SAUSAGE ONLY WITH ME. NOT OUR FAMILY!

Weeping mama: OK SON, WE COULD HAVE HIS EGGS POACHED TOMORROW MORNING FOR BREAKFAST.

Distraught father: LEAVE THAT MAN ALONE. HE’S DOING EXACTLY WHAT I DID TO YOUR MOTHER.

All the family members: STARE AT PAPA AND MAMA…

Three months later…

EVERYONE IN THE FAMILY IS CHECKING PREGGY GIRL’S TUMMY AND PRAISING. IS IT A BOY? A GIRL? A BIRD? ….. NO. IT’S GONNA BE SUPERMANNNN! 😀 😀 😀

THEN BABY IS BORN…

And the family goes into a tizz, finding a name for the lad.

Mama says: How about Eric?

Papa says: NO! Must be after my name, Brutus.

Eldest son says: BRUTUS? That’s a dog’s name. No. No.

New unwed mother says: How about Erectile?
Whole family claps hands and cheers for Erectile.

Erectile harbors well for the baby’s future. He will stand strong and tall above his male counterparts.

25 years later…… There he goes…. Erectile true to his name, prodding and probing and poking just like his father did.

And the story never ends… It goes on and on and on!

I hope you all had a good laugh! 😀 😉

Kidding aside folks, below are a few tangible reasons why some girls prefer married men than certified bachelors:

  1. Married men give any woman the best exit reason if the woman changes her mind
  2. Married men are more financially stable.
  3. Married men are more vulnerable.
  4. Married men know more about sex than unmarried men.
  5. Married men can know how women behave better than unmarried men.
  6. Most married men won’t want to have children